Can you give too much support?

MOMSEVERYDAY -- You listen to your kids’ problems and you help them find solutions. When you’re a parent, being supportive is part of the job, but new research shows too much support might backfire.

Researchers studied third graders and their moms. They looked at parents’ supportive reactions to children’s negative emotions and how those reactions affected a child’s social skills. Moms who were more supportive reported greater social adjustment in kids. But teachers reported more problem behaviors and poorer social skills in kids whose moms were more supportive.

Researchers say support is not a one-size-fits-all kind of solution. While it’s a good idea to support your child, you may need to adjust how you do that as they age because some practices are not as effective for older children. A 2015 Brigham Young University study found children of controlling, helicopter parents are less engaged in the classroom.